While the topic of this particular discussion revolved around wearing make-up at the gym, the article touched on an issue I'm sure all women can relate to- being judged and judging others.
*warning a bit of a rant begins here but I believe it's crucial we start working change the culture of how women treat each other at the gym.
I won't lie, I've judged other women, and I am sure I've been judged. I write this not with my nose in the air claiming I'm perfect (far from it) but as a call to action to women to quit making assumptions, be kind, be empathetic, and be respectful of one another.
I mean we all know...
That skinny girl on the treadmill who is always running really needs to get off and eat a cheeseburger.
That woman who has her hair perfect, make-up on and booty shorts is clearly at the gym only to look for a date, and not a interested in her workout.
That ripped figure competitor who never talks to anyone is a snotty bitch who thinks she knows everything.
The lady who 8 months pregnant that is still going hard in group exercise class is a moron. She's putting her baby at risk by exercising that hard.
The girl who posts selfies on InstaGram flexing. I mean she's cute but she's not that hot.
And don't even get my started on crossfitters. Good God, they think their shit don't stink don't they?
That's the truth right?
Come on, be honest- you've heard this before from a friend, overhead others saying it or even said it yourself. It needs to stop. Really.
In the article Liz encourages readers, "Pay attention to the things in life that trigger you, to the things that make you want to judge others and then ask yourself, “Why?” Chances are, there’s an opportunity to learn something about yourself instead of criticizing others."
I can't help but think back when my daughter was about 4 months old. I was the heaviest I'd ever been and in attempts get back into shape I signed up to run a 5k. Two weeks out from the race my best friend called and asked to run the race with me. Even though I am a terrible runner, I'm competitive and seeing as I was always considered the "athlete" between the two of us, although she's a great golfer, I thought I had the race in the bag.
Race day came, and she smoked me. Not only did she beat me in the race but she went on to lose all of her baby weight (our girls were both born with in a few weeks of each other) and then some! She looked amazing. She was happy and beaming with confidence. I on the other hand was so sick with jealously that it was hard to be around her. She had spent the previous months working towards her health and fitness goals and I was stagnant I spent more time then I'd ever care to admit comparing and examining her life to mine. I was miserable.
Eventually, I was able to shift the focus from her to me (where it should have been all along). I slowly gained back my confidence and through diet and exercise I was able to lose the baby weight (and then some) too. We're still best friends to boot!
I have to agree with Liz. When I find myself criticizing others it's typically because they are triggering something I feel insecure about in myself. Lucille Ball once said, "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line." Focus on yourself, love yourself, find what gives you confidence and build on it because tearing down other women down isn't kind, it's not healthy for you, and it certainly isn't attractive.
Remember when it comes to fitness, achieving health is like taking a road trip. We all have a same destination in mind (or at least something similar) but there maybe a hundred different ways to get there.
I challenge you before you judge to remember that the skinny girl on the may be training for her first marathon and totally nervous. That figure competitor you think is a snotty know it all, she's really nice, just focused. The girl on InstaGram flexin is proud to share her progress, you should try it! And the girl with flawless make-up? Try giving her a sincere compliment. I'd be willing to bet both you and her leave feeling lifted.
And, for the record I know some crossfitters and they're pretty darn nice.
Your turn: Have you experienced judging or being judged yourself? How can you help lift (no pun intended) other women up?